Trust Your Gut Feeling

I think one of the hardest truths I've had to face is that my gut was usually right.

Not because I have some special gift, but because we all have gut feelings. We all know that feeling in our body when something doesn't feel quite right, even when we can't put it into words. My body often noticed things long before my mind was ready to accept them.

Ever since I was a little girl, I've had strong gut feelings. That uncomfortable feeling when something wasn't right. That feeling when someone wasn't being honest. That feeling when a situation didn't feel safe, respectful, or genuine.

The problem wasn't that I couldn't feel it. The problem was that I didn't want to believe it.

So I did what many of us do. I explained it away, gave people the benefit of the doubt, and convinced myself I was overthinking. I ignored what my body was trying to tell me because I wanted love more than I wanted truth.

Looking back now, I can see that some of the biggest heartbreaks in my life came after I ignored my own gut feeling. I felt the dishonesty. I felt the distance. I felt the lies. I felt the disrespect.

And when I finally found the courage to speak up, the conversation often got turned back around on me. I was told I was overthinking. I was told I was being paranoid. I was told I was imagining things.

Eventually, when you hear those words enough, you start questioning yourself instead of questioning the behaviour. You stop trusting your own feelings. You start looking for proof of what you already know deep down.

You begin apologising for asking perfectly reasonable questions. And little by little, you disconnect from yourself.

But here's what I've learned. Just because someone dismisses your feelings doesn't mean your feelings are wrong. Just because someone tells you you're overthinking doesn't mean there isn't something worth paying attention to.

Sometimes people will work very hard to convince you not to trust yourself because it's easier than taking responsibility for their behaviour. And if I'm honest, I've done this too. We all have moments where it's easier to dismiss someone else's feelings than sit with our own actions. We're human. The important thing is learning to recognise it.

Over time, that creates masks. We pretend we're okay when we're not. We accept behaviour that hurts us. We abandon ourselves to keep other people in our lives.

The truth is, our gut feeling isn't always comfortable. Sometimes it tells us something we desperately don't want to hear. Sometimes it asks us to walk away from people we love. Sometimes it asks us to choose ourselves.

That's hard. Really hard.

But ignoring the truth doesn't change the truth. It only delays it.

If you're reading this, I want you to know that your feelings matter. If something feels off, pay attention. If someone repeatedly makes you question yourself, pay attention. If your body feels anxious, uneasy, or unsettled around someone, pay attention.

You don't need evidence for every feeling. You don't need permission to trust yourself. You don't need to stay somewhere that doesn't feel right just because you're scared of losing someone.

Your gut won't always be comfortable. But it will usually be honest.

And learning to listen to yourself might be one of the most important relationships you ever build.

Love yourself more.

Listen to your body.

She Knows. 🤍

Lots of Love...Claire Bear

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